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Your Relationship - Do You Really Know Each Other Before You Jump Into a Marriage Written by Bonnie Holscher
Amazingly enough, people do not get to know each other before they enter into a marriage. People do not take the time to get to know one another before they begin a life long journey down a road that often leads to divorce. Things change and people change when the security of the commitment is tied together by a marriage certificate. People relax into their old habits which were carefully put away during the dating or lack of dating and instant relationship began. There are several reasons why this continues to happen in our society. Too young and get involved sexually first. Many couples today are young people who become infatuated with each other thinking they have found true love. Tender puppy love sets in and next thing you know they have found the experience of a sexual encounter. What, in most cases spurs them to hold on to what they think is love is the distain or disapproval of either of the parents. So they jump into a marriage when they are old enough because they want to prove mom and dad wrong. Or friends for that matter who have expressed a disliking to the partner their friend has chosen. Getting Older and Time is running out. This reason has become more and more common in the current age group of 35 to 45. Many from this age group have not yet been married and find that if they are have a child they need to find a partner at lightning speed. The age group of 45 to 55 who have not been married find themselves looking at retirement and older age alone and without a partner. After the age of 55 many people just become companions and do not ever get married to the one they spend their time with. Rebounded and lonely. Loneliness is a great motivator for two people to jump into a relationship and/or marriage. With divorce rate percentages much higher than before especially in middle age couples, people react to attention and latch onto a person because of the void they now have in their lives. After months or years in a relationship or marriage and the comfort of a partner, many people find themselves very lonely. At the first sign of attention or affection they move quickly toward the comfortable feeling of another relationship so that the loneliness goes away. Unfortunately they again find themselves lonely because they married someone they did not really know and who they may not be compatible with. These are three of many reasons couples don’t make it to forever after. For additional information on how you can get to know each other better before and after you have made that leap into a long term relationship visit http://imgettingtoknowyou.com For continued tips on how to keep your friends and relationships growing, sign up for your free updates and monthly newsletter at http://www.friendsandbeyond.com
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