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Marriage Is Prison - There Are No Walls Written by Thomas Brakar
Remember the first Matrix movie, where Neo meets the spoon bending boy at the oracle's waiting room? The boy teaches Neo the secret - There are no spoon. It's the same with marriage; there are no walls. If marriage is a prison, it is all in your head. You are free to do anything you want. Really. You see, the confinement of marriage is fictitious. It is made up by barriers that disappear once you identify them. They are called expectations. Expectations can build strong prisons that will suck the will to live out of you. How? By confining you to a life where you spend your timed trying do what’s ‘right’ instead of living your potential or pursuing your dreams. And expectations attacks from all sides, from your family, from her family, from your woman and even from yourself. Everyone and anyone has an opinion or notion on how married life should be. You should behave certain ways and stay far away from certain behaviors. These restraints are cruel, but we accept them. We sometimes call it tradition. OK. Enough beating around the bush. Here are my list of the top ten expectations: 1. You should feel the love for your wife at any time. 2. Your love for her should make you spend less time with your friends.
I don’t know where this comes from, but it’s a relationship killer. A man needs his friends. 3. You should be soul mates, telling everything to each other.
This is what a lot of women hope for, but only a few achieve. But it’s not important. You don’t have to be soul mates to have a great marriage. The important stuff is caring for each other, enough to be in it for the long haul. 4. Your love for her should make you never want to look at another woman.
Impossible. Men look at women. Period. But that does not mean that we’d stray for any temptations. 5. You should be the handyman, she should be the caring mother. 6. You should have sex 3.4 times a week. 7. You should buy or build an expensive home. 8. You should have 2.6 children. 9. You should get a practical, responsible family vehicle. 10. You should grow old together. Thomas Brakar is the author - owner of Brakar.com a blog on Manliness and Living With a Woman. Thomas insists that it is possible for men to have a long term relationship without loosing their manhood. He enjoys silly things like manly cars, odd news and funny videos, and he finds great pleasure in arguments with people who flag stupid beliefs like "there are no genders" and "men can't commit". This article is part of a Ten Day Special where he looks at marriage as a prison and try to figure out how we can make prison life better.
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